This week’s Word comes from a friend of mine who has spent the last three years battling colon cancer. Today Wendy Stauffer, founder of Ultimate Wellness (www.UltimateWellness.jigsy.com), shares her thoughts on her journey so far.
Recently, God changed her view of her situation. Her words stirred my soul as I thought of the many times I have found myself in a battle. I have worked and fought for a particular outcome—and I have wearied myself with all the working. After reading her words, I can’t help but consider: How many hours have I spent fighting the “enemy,” when in fact I was actually fighting against God?
Think about it for a moment. Nothing passes into our lives that God didn’t either ordain or allow. Whether we like the idea or not, Satan must have permission from Jesus to attack and “sift” His disciples (Luke 22:31-32).
When things come into our lives we wouldn’t choose, we tirelessly battle against them, determined to change our circumstances to match our will. But if God has allowed our circumstances, wouldn’t that mean that we are actually fighting Him?
No wonder we get tired. You and I don’t have the strength to win that battle.
Perhaps God’s blessing for you in your trial looks different than the one you’ve been fighting for. And just maybe, dear one, you’re missing what He wants to give because you’re fighting so hard for it.
What if the secret to your great victory lies in rest, beloved? What if surrendering to God’s choice for you and allowing Him to shape your heart through it becomes the catalyst to experiencing Exodus 14:14?
“The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.”
Cancer – A Paradigm Shift
by Wendy Stauffer
People are constantly saying things like, “You are a fighter, Wendy. You’re gonna beat cancer!” “You just keep fighting. You are so strong.” My dearest family and friends often put out prayer requests that read, “Pray for Wendy in her battle against cancer.” We’ve all been well programmed on how to view cancer. I see organizations crusading in the fight against cancer with billboards and slogans properly worded for defeating or beating this horrible foe.
As I’ve had time to ponder just how this battle is going, Dr. Phil’s haunting question keeps coming to mind. “How’s it working for ya?” Well, I need to be totally honest. It isn’t working! I have been so consumed these past three years being afraid of cancer, being angry at having cancer, being on a crusade to wipe out cancer, (which I think is a curse from the pit of hell), trying to figure out how to avoid cancer, feeling defeated by cancer, saddened by new reports of loved ones getting cancer, being consumed trying to rid my body of cancer, being overcome with grief and tears over cancer, that I’ve wasted so much precious time and energy on it, and it is still winning! Not only is it winning; it has gotten worse!
All of my efforts to conquer and overcome cancer have sent my cortisol levels sky high, allowing cancer deeper access to me, blocking my immune system from getting rid of it naturally. Something needs to change. To continue to do the same thing and expect different outcomes is called insanity.
I believe it’s time for a paradigm shift. What would happen if I actually stopped fighting, stopped being angry, stopped crying, stopped trying or striving to conquer or overcome cancer? One thing is certain. My stress levels would go down! What if I turned the tables on the Enemy’s strategy to engage me in this fight? What if I accept cancer? Learn to enjoy every moment of every day – cancer and all? What if I stop fretting about having it and make peace with it? That doesn’t necessarily mean I give up HOPE and don’t do anything positive. It doesn’t mean giving up and dying from it, but truly making peace with the situation I’m in, thanking God every day for allowing me to experience this and learn from this, viewing it as a way He is preparing me for future ways to bless others.
You know what I think might happen? The Enemy won’t get any more evil pleasure from tormenting me because I refuse to be tormented. Maybe he’ll just give up and move on. My cortisol levels will drop because my body won’t be constantly in a “fight or flight” mode and my immune system might actually kick in like it’s supposed to and kill the cancer cells. It will no longer be sidetracked dealing with removing cortisol. I will be honoring God and praising Him more, being grateful for each day, living life to the fullest as I tenderly care for my body, rather than declare war on cancer. As I get my mind off the cancer, I get my mind on whose I am, God’s beloved daughter, treasured, worthy of health, a royal princess. Instead of constantly being in battle-mode, I’d experience all the good things He wants me to have like peace, contentment, abundant life. I’d let go of regret and embrace all I’ve learned through this season of life, excited for how He plans to work all things out for my good according to His good purpose.
Cancer is not the enemy. I believe it is being used BY the Enemy to destroy God’s precious children. God is not our enemy either just because He allows people to experience cancer. Cancer is something that can send you into the loving arms of God to learn life lessons, like it has me.
You’ve heard the saying, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” Just like everything else we go through, this too shall pass one day, but not until I’ve been able to squeeze every drop of lemonade from it. So I don’t plan to fight anymore. I plan to put up a lemonade stand so that all who come into my life can have a delicious, refreshing, alkalizing, life-giving drink of God’s goodness from my lemons.
Anyone care for a cup of lemonade? (without the white sugar, of course!)